Every couple has arguments or disagreements. In a respectful and equal relationship, both partners feel free to express their opinions, make their own decisions

But this does not happen when someone is abusive. In an abusive relationship, one partner tries to dominate the other through physical harm, criticism, demands, threats, or sexual pressure. For the victim and her children, this behavior can be very dangerous, scary, confusing and harmful.

Psychological or emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse. Abuse in a relationship is never acceptable, regardless of the circumstances, and it is never the victim's fault. The abuse is not caused by alcohol, stress or the victim's behavior. Abuse occurs because the abuser wants to control and manipulate the other person. Physical and sexual assaults, threats and stalking are crimes and can be reported to the police.

My family and friends did not think it was "so bad" because he only hit me physically once. But the flaws and manipulations were much worse, the way he controlled my life.