What is abuse ?

What is abuse ?  

Every couple has arguments or disagreements. In a respectful and equal relationship, both partners feel free to express their opinions, to make their decisions. In an abusive relationship, one partner tries to dominate the other through abuse: physical, criticism, demands, threats, or sexual pressure. For the victim and her children, this behavior can be very dangerous, and harmful. Psychological or emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse. She may feel that she can not get away from her partner because they live in a rural area, or because they have the same friends, or are part of the same ethnic or religious community. She has no means to survive if the relationship ends. It may depend on the income of her partner. If she has a disability, she may depend on the abuser for help. It is very important that you do not make her feel that there is nothing wrong with her because she has not left. This will only reinforce her low self-esteem and feelings of guilt and self-blame. Getting away from an abusive partner can sometimes be quite dangerous. Abuse can continue or increase after leaving. "When I told her how she mistreated me, my sister told me" but you leave her alone to mistreat me "as if it were my fault. "My family knew I was being abused and I felt trapped, but they did not say nothing about it until I finally left. It would have helped me if they had said so and his behavior was not okay because I thought it was normal. "If they had said that I was a good person and that they were there if I had to, it would have made my departure much easier." kishte bërë shumë më lehtë largimin tim”.